Are you looking at your relationship as an investment?  It is the most important investment you will ever make.   We spend so much time during the dating phase giving our best to the one we are with.  We have the honeymoon phase where everything is all sweet and mushy.  We move into the complacent phase where we allow things to become routine.  Then if we aren’t careful the neglect  phase where we don’t pay attention to one another because we are so distracted by all the other things in our lives.  It can be your career, children, health issues, just about anything that you allow to come between you. That is when things become dangerous.  One or both of you will begin to search for something to fill that.  You must fill it with each other again!   Change up the routine, avoid becoming complacent.  Find time for one another.  Quit making excuses.  If you can’t find a sitter, I will find you one, or do it for you myself!   I have had experience myself with the whole, we can’t afford to go on dates mentality.  It was wrong!  We should have made date nights a priority, just like groceries, diapers and other necessities.  If we don’t invest quality time in our relationships, they will fail.  Dates don’t have to cost a lot of money.  It is all about together time.  Put the kids to bed and watch a movie together, pop some popcorn and snuggle up on the couch.  Go to a park and walk together.  Take a picnic to the park.  Play a game together.  Find a new hobby to do together.  There are so many different options.  But make time for your spouse.  Children need our undivided attention, but so do our spouses.  Take time to listen to them without judgement.  Give them the freedom to speak without fear, make it easy to communicate with one another.  Forgive one another.  Touch one another.  Praise one another.  Be reliable and available, both emotionally and physically and make your relationship an adventure!  Make it a good one.  If you do just one of these with your spouse or significant other this weekend, good things will happen and changes will begin in your relationship.  But if you can’t do any of these this weekend, pray for your relationship.  If you are not currently in a relationship, pray for the one God has prepared or is preparing for you.

“Until now you have asked for nothing in My name.  Ask and you will recieve, so that your joy may be complete.”  John 16:24


By Laurel Austin Henson

Laurel spent 8 months caring for her first husband after being diagnosed with cancer in 2010. He passed away at 33, leaving behind a daughter of 7 and 5 year old twin boys. After sowing millions of tears, Laurel sought out God daily and began to plan for a life of being a single mother, but ready to raise their children in faith, hope and love. God gave her more than she could have ever imagined when she brought Matt into her life, along with his 2 children. He was recently divorced and the providence of God had been leading up to this life for more than 20 years! Now Laurel is reaping joy with Matt and their 5 beautiful children. Thanks be to God for all the beauty created from the ashes of death and divorce.

1 comment

Leave a comment

Fill in your details below or click an icon to log in: Logo

You are commenting using your account. Log Out /  Change )

Twitter picture

You are commenting using your Twitter account. Log Out /  Change )

Facebook photo

You are commenting using your Facebook account. Log Out /  Change )

Connecting to %s

%d bloggers like this: