Monday’s have turned into an impromptu date night for Matt and I.  It is fabulous! All but one of our kids have activities on Monday evening and the one that doesn’t, would rather have his eyeballs pecked out by chickens than leave the house. HAHA!! So I feed everyone before dropping them off at their extracurricular and Matt and I pick one of our favorite spots enjoy a quick bite to eat, and sometimes shop a little bit. It is a nice stolen moment.  We love those. We try to find them as often as we can.  With 5 kids stolen moments are hard to come by. When Matt works from home we sneak off to lunch dates if he isn’t too busy. We run away on quick trips, and even just overnight to a nearby hotel. We look forward to uninterrupted time together, when no one needs anything from us.

There is so much business and chaos in life, we have to be diligent in making time for one another. Our kids are important, but so is your spouse. Make spending time together a priority. The kids will grow up and move on and make a life of their own. What will you have left if all of your energy is put into them and none into your marriage. Nothing.  What about that concept of the grass is always greener….are you watering and fertilizing your own grass, seeding and aerating it? Or are you just sitting back and watching it turn brown and wither. You can’t have anything good or beautiful that doesn’t require work and effort. Relationships are very much like a garden.  Marriage and relationships are a gift. They should be cherished and taken care of. Think of it as your most prized possession, how of you treat it, care for it, enjoy it. Do you do the same with your relationship?

Today, do something unexpected for the one you love. Make it a special moment, a stolen moment. Do not do it to receive something in return, but do it without expecting anything. No strings. Be present in your relationship. The more effort you put in it, the more you will get out of it.


By Laurel Austin Henson

Laurel spent 8 months caring for her first husband after being diagnosed with cancer in 2010. He passed away at 33, leaving behind a daughter of 7 and 5 year old twin boys. After sowing millions of tears, Laurel sought out God daily and began to plan for a life of being a single mother, but ready to raise their children in faith, hope and love. God gave her more than she could have ever imagined when she brought Matt into her life, along with his 2 children. He was recently divorced and the providence of God had been leading up to this life for more than 20 years! Now Laurel is reaping joy with Matt and their 5 beautiful children. Thanks be to God for all the beauty created from the ashes of death and divorce.

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